make the most of my 30s

...to make some of our own Christmas traditions.

In my 20s Christmas to me was about following my parents Christmas traditions…for example, we always have our Christmas dinner on Christmas Eve.

Now I’m in my 30s I would like to begin some traditions that are ours. This is also the first year we have the dog which makes it harder to stay overnight at my parents but easier to create some of our own traditions.

This year we will be coming home Christmas Eve and hanging our stocking by our fireplace ready for Father Christmas!! Yay!

...just seem to have flown by. I was remembering something earlier and realised it was TEN years ago. How did that happen?!

I really want to enjoy my 30s and make the most of every minute. I have been quite looking forward to them…hoping that some of the insecurities of my 20s will have passed and given me a new freedom.

We’ll see!

my mom, was so kind to remind me, that in 15 years I’ll be 50!
that makes 35 seem like a whole other place. Can’t wait to see what happens in the next 15, should be quite entertaining!

I seem to be ramping up the flirting. this is a good sign. Signaling that I am moving on, recovering, coming out from under depression…. all those things! I would like to take the next few years to date around, and just seek out fun. No more heavy duty, emotional roller coaster relationships, enough already!

I’m just coming down off an amazing hiking weekend in mammoth. I’m so in love with the mountain air, and the stars…..... oh the stars sang to me! Looking at the stars was so intimate, religious, awe inspiring, no words for those stars! Feeling so damn good after pushing myself physically. thinking I’d like to really go for it for the rest of my thirties, biking, walking, hiking, jogging, climbing, dancing, everything!

I’m single, educated, financially self sufficient, not in debt, healthy, strong…..seems like a good time in my life. How can I make the most of my mid-thirties, or rather the next five years…..??? I’m chewing on this question. Travel comes to mind. There is so much of the world I have yet to see. I would also like to go diving again! I would like to get into amazing shape! I want to climb mountains and have muscles! I want to have an adventure, and maybe some romance? dare I hope… Keep up my friendships, let my friends and family know I love them. I would like to make peace with things, be content/accepting/grateful/and generally in a good mood. I think that is the one thing that will make the biggest difference in my life, thirties, forties, fifties, whatever age. To get a handle on the monkey mind…..I believe I have a goal of taming the wild horses of my mind.. Maybe they are untameable, but I could still try to put them in a pasture, right? I think all of my 43things (or 35 things rather) are pointing me at this, to just see the beauty no matter what. To be married to amazement…..

Whenever it’s nearing my bday, I always like to find things about Taurus. Maybe it’s a tad hokey pokey, but I still find it inspiring! Actually, this one is frighteningly accurate.

May 15

Lucky Color: Teal
Personality Strengths: Peace, Talent
Personality Weakness: Weak-heartedness
Successful Career Path: Art
Sense of Humor Style: Obscure
Adjectives to Describe You: impulsive, adventurous

Description:
The quintessential dreamer – your head is always in the clouds. You dream big and think different – and want to truly achieve something great in your lifetime. You are highly motivated and driven, while surprisingly laid-back and fun-loving at the same time.

This upcoming year is going to be devoted to relationships and adventure! I’m excited!

Well, I’m not sure how well I am getting this “thing” done. I’m 34 for several more hours. But someone reminded me that this year, 35, I will at least be removed from an unhealthy relationship, and honestly forging ahead with an authentic life in the best way I know how. I am open to learning, I am humble, I am thankful for my courage this year and finally facing the fear! I think that sitio was right when he wrote last year that fear is never a good excuse. That has been my hard learned, and still learning lesson this year. That said, I have glimpses of the strength I’m gaining through this year. And, my career is getting better, which has been unexpected and blessed! I actually love my new marketing position and have been recieving so much positive feedback from the staff, my peers appreciate me and see my good qualities. I couldn’t have planned it better, a small miracle to “like my job”.

Birthday gifts to myself, sex and the city dvd’s, a new tv to watch them on (which was shipped this week and I think I will pick up tomorrow or the next day), a bottle of my favorite splurge expensive wine!, and a bottle of decent french champagne!, coworkers taking me out to dinner tomorrow night, and a girlfriend who will indulge me all weekend I”m sure, okay, feeling more excited about the bday tomorrow, all that said.

I’m pretty happy with my career for now …. but I don’t see it lasting for more than another, say… ohhhh…. 6 months. So, whenever I see anything about dream jobs, I have to smile, wondering how my career is going to develop. I’m currently a graphic designer, which is ok but what if I could be a baker or a fashion-something or I could be some sort of environmental something-or-another… yes, the plans are very undeveloped.

Anyway, here are a couple of those articles:

http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog
/2008/04/16/6-tips-for-landing-your-dream-job/

http://www.wisebread.com
/feeling-stuck-100-ways-to-change-your-life

“To laugh often and love much; to win the respect of intelligent persons and the affection of children; to earn the approbation of honest citizens and endure the betrayal of false friends; to appreciate beauty; to find the best in others; to give of one’s self; to leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch or a redeemed social condition; to have played and laughed with enthusiasm and sung with exultation; to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived – this is to have succeeded.”

~Ralph Waldo Emerson