Most people who I know and care about are always saying that I’m a nice person, or that I’m modest…but in truth I don’t feel this is true. I’m not going to turn around and blame this on my upbringing, I refuse, but I think I might be a sulky/manipulative person and I want to stop being like this before I hurt or lose someone I really care about. Sometimes I have to stop and ask myself “Am I doing this because I want to be nice, or am I doing this because I might get something out of it?” And I hate myself for it, I want it to stop, I want to do something nice naturally because it makes me feel good (is that bad? I’m not sure). My main motive for change is my boyfriend, he is the sweetest guy I know and at the moment I’m questioning why he’d be with me in the first place when he could be with someone who he deserves.
But it isn’t enough to simply say “I’m going to be a better person” because the negative thoughts are still going to be in my head – and it’s these I want to get rid of
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 "It was a long, hard, and frustrating road to travel, but worth it."
How I did it: I ended up dating a man who is now my husband. As far as personalities go, we were total opposites. After seeing all of the positive things people would say about him, and all the people that liked him, I decided to follow his examples. Lessons & tips: The best tip I can give anyone, is to surround yourself with people you want to be like. Maybe you only need that 1 person to help you out. Eventually you end up picking up on their positive attitude or whatever you're after.
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so now he’s in one of my classes htis year, and i decided i will be nicer to him and everyone else.
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im 20 so i hv started my social life it seems hard to be my self or the society dont want pure my self they need changes acording to there needs and situations i wanna change it i want every one love me as what i am for that i should make a situation which will make me a smart person to the world I’M TRYING FOR IT….
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inthesedreams asks,
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questgrrl asks,
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anonumous asks,
“I always have this conflict about what kind of person to be: eye for an eye, or be nice to people even when they say annoying/relatively mean things. What to do?”
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