let go of negative people in my life

yeah…mostly guys: MF and MC I let them both go. It took me 5 years for the first and one and a half years for the second one, but eventually I did it. They made my life miserable, crushing down all my self-esteem, all my joy for life. I cannot understand how some people can be that abusive. Well, they both were, even if not in a physical way. Bye bye jerks!

family member:
use to call me 4 times a week to complain about someone in her life. That got emotionally draining for me. All the negativity. I decided to change my phone #. The last straw with me was an email basically insulting me. and No apology for it even though I said it hurt me. I do not deserve to be treated bad.

X bridezilla friend:
She asked me to be in her wedding and i accepted but only to find out that her maid of honor was someone whom I do NOT get along with at all. So almost a year before wedding I backed out gracefully because problems starting happening already w/ maid of honor and myself. Only to get an ultimatum on the friendship. Either be in my wedding or your not my friend anymore. I decided not to be in the wedding regardless and decided not to be friends w/ her ever again. Even though, I receive emails every now and then from her wanting to be friends again and saying sorry. Too bad. If someone is willing to issue an ultimatum, then they better live w/ the consequences! I deserve better friends than that!

The best thing that has happened to me over the last 2 yrs was the new friendships I’ve gained by joining yahoo social groups to meet new friends! new positive, friendly and awesome friends I’ve met!!! I feel so lucky!

I can cross this off my list. I don’t think I have any negative people in my life anymore. I had a very strained relationship with an inlaw, but as time has passed we’ve reached a common ground and now the relationship is surprisingly good.

And to be honest, I don’t have a whole lot of negative people in my life. I work with a few real downers, but there isn’t much I can do about that unless I change jobs (an inviting option)My mother is a very negative person and we’ve recently stopped talking. It was a very painful time but I think it is the right thing right now for me and for my family. She is very demanding and is in everyone’s business, always. I think I had an easier time when she was minding MY business than lately, as she’s been minding my kid’s business. It was just too much. I regret so many decisions that I’ve made that I feel I was bullied into by her. I wish I had been stronger when I was young, because I think my life would have played out much differently. The few times I did stand up to her and made my own choices were some of the best choices I’ve made in my life. Anyway, I think I can almost say I’ve completed this goal and have grown up a little.

I realized that rather than letting go of the negative people in my life (avoiding them all together), I need to change my perception about them.

I am choosing to let go of my attachment to their negativity.

It reminds me of that quote: “Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a great battle”. I think either Elizabeth Barrett Browning or Plato said that. I think about that quote everyday, I should probably find out who actually said that.

Really negative people are very draining (& not much fun), but they are just doing the best they can with the tools they have.

I’ve found that one way to cope with negative people is to imagine that they are cartoon characters.

It works.

A necessary evil. But so rewarding.

i stopped comutacating with 1 person that always put me down

It’s an ongoing struggle though to prevent negative people from reentering your life.

There is someone from my past who I’ve been thinking about a lot lately. Someone who treated me very badly, in fact. I have this urge to write to him and tell him that finally I know how badly he treated me and that I’m far better off without him. But that would be silly, wouldn’t it? I mean… what I want is to let him go out of my life, not to keep it going by pursuing some sign of sorrow in him.