communicate better

A big problem between me and my husband is that I don’t know how to communicate my feelings and thoughts properly. I would like to improve this so I can work on improving my marriage as well.

I don’t know how to communicate my feelings toward this one :x

I think my communication skills are pretty damn good.. for the most part. I just need to learn how to get to the point & ask for I want more often. I need to be more direct.

Not a bad one and yet…I have been working on a catalog for the cabinetry shop I work for. I had set up the printing to be done by a local shop at a very good price. They ran a proof for us.

The owner, salesman and I had a meeting where we were talking about a higher quality of paper stock, etc. The next day my proof disappeared. I found it in the finishing room and brought it back to my office.

The sales manager (who is also the production manager) came in and asked me about it and acted like I was way out of line taking it back. He had decided to take it somewhere else.

The owner of the company who is very laid back (he’s an artist) was in the next room working on a project. I explained to them both if they kept me in the loop with my projects they have given me we wouldn’t have this confusion.

We laughed about it but I meant what I said…don’t give me a project and not keep me in the loop…nothing will get done that way. ;)

with the person who is upset with me. So the ball is now in her court. I will send out thoughts of love and friendship if she wants to respond that’s great…if not…oh well it’s true when they say “you can’t please some of the people all of the time.”

but it seems people are not very open with me about their feelings.

Things I could have addressed may have helped avoid some conflicts and hurt feelings over the years. I tend to be pretty brutal when I get mad…it takes alot to make me mad but then I cross the line and say things best left unsaid.

I haven’t done that since B and I split over a year ago. So I thought I had learned my lesson but today I felt like unloading on someone and that really wouldn’t accomplish anything.

I have always been rather shy, and have social anxiety attacks often.
I often find myself not expressing what I need because I’m afraid of rejection. Then I grow frustrated when my needs aren’t met. It’s an awful cycle. Especially in my intimate relationships.

I want to learn how to communicate in a way that is even-keeled and gets my points across and have it be received with calmness and willingness to listen.

I don’t know the best format for doing this. I don’t know how to bring UP what I need, much less carry on about them.

im pretty sure this has made my life a heck of a lot easier

I’m considering this accomplished since it’s become a habit now to slow down (especially while writing) and consider my audience before processing in order to ensure the message I present is clear and concise and to the best of my ability most questionable components are well explained.

develop a better vocabulary