not let people take advantage of me

i had a yard sale a couple of weeks ago. My gram and i were comparing our experiences with knives,there was one that she bought from me from the yard sale, and she said that she wanted to see the one that i had got when i was overseas. As i brought back the knife, she assumed that i would sell it to her for the same or greater amount that i bought it at. i was not planning on doing that, so i told her no, it’s not for sale. then she tried to make me feel bad for not letting her buy it, and for bringing it up to show her. If i would have known that she was wanting to buy it, i wouldn’t have shown it to her. i hate when she does that. tries to manipulate things i do and my reasons for doing things!!

My sister has really ripped me off – I loaned her money to get her out of a tight situation but since then she’s actually stolen from me and obviously has no intention of paying the original amount back – worse, it’s from my son’s university fund that I’ve been paying into a small amount a month for years.

My advice is cut off people that are users, in my opinion just keep doing good ,the people that are takers will never amount to nothing people that give get more in life than those that take.

It’s very difficult because I’m petite and have a “nice girl” look to me. Sometimes I feel like I have a sign on my forehead telling people that I’m an easy target to take advantage of, or offend, or just plain gullible. I’m really tired of playing too nice. I feel like I get stuck with a lot of other people’s baggage. Anyway, it’s gotten better since I’ve grown, but I still have a long way to go. Along the same lines, I need to grow tough skin, and be happy with my accomplishments. I don’t need to listen to other people’s negativity. Their words should help me grow stronger, not chip away at my self-worth.

For me, it’s so hard to enforce “no” and get away with it. It’s always so easy to get trapped.

My colleague asked me the other day if I would like to do one quite boring ask, which was actually not even my responsibility; he tried to sell it as “thats a cool thing for your experience”. I resisted. I didnt dare to tell him in person, so I just mailed back, no, thank you, I am working on something more thrilling. Seems like people respect you more when you are not a YES-man

I seem to let people make me feel sorry for them & give them money & want to stop before it is too late.

Yesterday someone tried to give me extra task, which, according to my new job describtion, shouldnt be my responsibility any more.
The Old Me whould have done it without even expecting gratitude. The New Me committed that it should not happen anymore.
I tried to be politically correct, professional and at the same time firm.
I mailed back :
“In search of solution for all of us, I’m committed to assist anyone who is willing to learn how to get the data. At the same time I will do my best to prevent old tasks bouncing back to me due to the fact that no one else is able to execute them.”
Feels like small victory!

Learning to say no has been a wonderful thing. I’m always willing to help out friends and people I care about, but I’ve learned where to draw the line now.

Much easier said than done. Somehow “I’ll help you if you need it” is interpreted by the general human population as, “PLEASE COME FUCKING WALK ALL OVER ME AND DO EVERYTHING YOU CAN TO MANIPULATE ME AND USE ME AND THEN LIE ABOUT IT.”

Said people don’t even do a good job at manipulating me/the truth and then lying about it. If your going to do it, people, THEN FUCKING DO IT PROPERLY.

So yeah. Incase you couldn’t tell, I’m VERY done with helping people right now.